How fitting of a topic for today’s post, as I have been gifted with an inordinate amount of opportunities to practice acceptance here lately! There are some things going on in my personal life that leave a lot of unanswered questions that have me wondering what the next step is going to be. I think I have the right idea but then I question myself. I get wrapped up in whether or not what I am thinking is what God’s will for me truly is, or if I have bought into my own will, trying to convince myself that it is God’s. I am sure that on the surface, I still have to do what is right in front of me or as we say in the recovery community “the next right thing.” One of my favorite stories in the AA big book is “Acceptance Was the Answer.” I can relate to that story on so many levels it’s not even funny. The serenity prayer is fitting for such situations “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference!” Whether you believe in God or not, that prayer is a powerful mantra. First, accepting what I can’t change can be difficult; this includes people, places, things, situations, outcomes, etc. Those things aren’t always easy to accept, especially when I have already placed expectations on them. Second, we have the finding courage to change the things that I can part. The things in my power to control are essentially how I perceive, and how I react to all of the first things. Finally, we have the wisdom to know the difference. Some might call this awareness. I hear all the time from someone close to me how important it is to just be aware. I find myself today stuck in the middle of all of it. I am finding it hard to accept some things, I have not been willing to change what I have the power to change (me), and there is essentially no wisdom because I am blocking myself from the rest. In a few short weeks I should have the answers but I am truly struggling to accept what some of the potential outcomes might be. Whatever the case, I know that I have to accept these things for what they are, out of my control, and focus on what I can control which is me. Thanks for reading, please like, comment, and share!
“Acceptance doesn’t mean that life gets better; it just means that my way of living life of life’s terms improves.” – Sharon E. Rainey