31-Day Spiritual Guide: Day 10 – Unconditional Love

This should have been posted yesterday, but I fell asleep trying to get my daughter to sleep and then overslept this morning and did not have time before dropping her off at daycare. Today’s topic is unconditional love. Love, if you accept the Hollywood version, is a magical feeling that you can not help. A feeling that overwhelms you to the point that you have no control over actions or anything else; also, it is spontaneous and can change at the drop of a hat. To me, this version is all too convenient. I do not live by the Hollywood version and I am not sure I ever bought into it to begin with. I think love is defined by the corresponding actions. If I love someone, it goes beyond what I feel, or think I feel, inside. Love for someone else is action that goes contradictory to self-interest and complements what is in the best interest of the other person. Love is not words to comfort a volatile situation, it is action that prevents a volatile situation. To take this subject a step further, we add “unconditional” to the front of love. I never understood this kind of love until I had my first child, the same child that I fell asleep with last night. The moment I saw her, I knew that I would do anything in my power to protect her and give her the best life I possibly could, no matter what that might cost myself. In that instance, I became less self-interested and almost solely focused on her best interests. Unconditional love is the glue to any successful relationship, be it parent-to-child, spouse-to-spouse, etc. I try every day to extend that kind of love to others, especially those still struggling or new to recovery because they are who need it the most. They are the ones who will make the most mistakes and who will disappoint the most people and the lack of hope associated with those factors can cause the addict/alcoholic who is trying to get better to become discouraged and give up. My mantra for today is to focus on spreading love, above all else. Have a great day everyone, thanks for reading!